Hello fellow bloggers~
This week has been so crazy so the Loving Kindness exercise came at just the right time. I had to see my soon-to-be ex-husband last Friday and it was tough. As I was going through the Loving Kindness exercise ironically I thought of him. I thought about how forgiving him and sending him well wishes could be cathartic for me. I can actually wish him the best of luck, maybe not to his face but in thoughts.
I discovered through the Integral Assessment that I have many areas that I need to work on but not to get overwhelmed with the prospect. If I can just focus on one area and work on that I will make progress. I have chosen self-love to be the focus of my growth and development. For so many years I put him first trying with no luck to make him happy that I lost myself. I am working on meditating at least three times a week. And I’m going to get my nails done. This is something simple but I feel so good when I get pampered. I am worth it and I will work on this area of my life.
Hi Dana,
ReplyDeleteIt is so easy to get lost and forget ourselves in family dynamics. The best step forward is that you became aware of the need for you to put yourself first, good job. I hope you truly enjoy getting your nails done.
I appreciated your post because it is so easy with relationships for us to go off course. I am curious that if you can wish your soon to be ex good wishes in though, what stops you from being able to express it verbally? Would that be empowering for you?
Have a great week a head, Candii
Dana,
ReplyDeleteYou have been through a lot! One day you will be able to wish your ex well to his face and possibly mean it. :) Right now I know it's still too fresh. Family issues usually is the worse on our mental and physical health and can beat up on our psychological health, we have to learn to release it.
Dana,
ReplyDeleteWhat a tough time going through divorce. I like how you suggested about fogiving in your mind rather than first to his face. I wonder if that would be the same loving-kindness effect even though it is not done face to face. Regardless it is a great first step in the healing process through such a difficult time. Thank you for sharing with us.
Tom